Why is decision making so hard? The thing is, most of the time we know exactly what we are supposed to do. But actually stepping out and doing it is the most difficult part.
Life on the whole is about decision making and choices. We do it every day. The reality is, not all the decisions we make would derive the outcome we anticipated. There is no way to know beforehand if a choice or decision is going to be right or wrong. But that is no reason not to make a decision.
Make the Decision Yours
The worst type of decision to make is one based on what someone else wants or expects from you. When you make a decision based on someone else’s expectations, it is most likely going to turn out being the wrong one. In the long run you would be unhappy and miserable, and blame it on the other person. When you make a decision based on your own feelings and principles, the outcome usually turns out for the best. Even if it does not, it was still your choice, your decision, and you totally responsible for it. At least you can sit down and reflect why the decision was not the best and make the necessary adjustments. At the end of the day, it is your happiness at stake, not someone else’s.
Let’s face it. We don’t know where our decisions or choices would lead us. It is a risk, and one that has to be taken. But when it is made based on your own judgment it is hardly ever wrong.
Seek Advice for Major Decisions
The decisions and choices you make can change your life significantly. That’s why when they are major, advice must be sought. When you have reached a point when the decision becomes a tough one, here are three things you can do:
1. Talk to someone who was in a similar situation. Take guidance from their experience and apply it based on your circumstances. Note I said take guidance. Don’t try and copy exactly what that person did. For instance, you might have a medical condition that requires surgery. Someone else would have had the same condition and decided to use natural healing methods which would have worked for them. But before you decide to do something like that, talk to your doctor and get all the necessary information before going down that road.
2. Brainstorm options. Using the example above, look at all the options based on what the doctor said. For instance, you can use a combination of both methods. Or just try natural healing for a while and see how it works. You can completely forget natural healing and do the surgery. Or not do either. The body has a way of healing itself if you allow it. But that’s another blog post.
3. Weigh the pros and cons of each option. Most decisions have both a good and not so good outcome. Choose the one you can best live with. But you must decide.