Losing someone you love can be one of the most painful things to experience. When we lose someone close to us, it is quite natural to experience unhappiness, grief, loneliness and in extreme cases depression.
The death of a loved one can be emotionally draining. When you lose someone close to you, especially if they lived with you, major adjustments must now be made to daily activities and routines. Having to pick up the pieces and move on with life can be very hard. But you must find ways to deal with your loss and avoid getting to the point where it is hard for you to move on.
Here are a few ways that can help you cope with the death of a loved one, including some examples of how Jesus dealt with grief.
Death is a part of life
First, accept that death is inevitable. There will come a time when we all would die, and as painful as that is, death is a part of life.
Grief is a natural process
Second, when someone close to us dies, grief is a natural reaction to dealing with the loss. It is a necessary process that allows you to release that hurt and pain you feel inside. For instance, crying is one way to release that pain.
When Jesus learnt of Lazarus’ death, he wept.
In another example we saw where Jesus went off by himself to a quiet place after he learnt of John’s death.
In your time of grief, you may need to take some time off by yourself. But don’t isolate yourself for too long. It also helps to be around friends and family to express your feelings.
Think about the good times you spent with your loved one
Thirdly, getting over your loss would take time, but time heals all wounds. While the pain may not go away entirely, with time it would subside. Focus on the positive, all the good times you had with your loved one. They would not want you to be sad, but to move on with your life and be happy.
Don’t blame yourself
If your loved one died under tragic circumstances the pain would be even more difficult to deal with. You may want to blame yourself because you felt you could have done something to prevent it. But things happen for a reason we may never fully understand. You just have to trust in God and leave it in His hands.
“God blesses those who mourn, for they will be comforted”. (Matthew 5:4)
Finally, one of the best ways to deal with death and loss is to minister to others. The bible tells us that God comforts us in all our troubles so that we can comfort others. When others are troubled, we will be able to give them the same comfort God has given us (2 Corinthians I:3-4).
Don’t keep those feelings of grief inside. Help others in their time of grieving and you too would be comforted.